Monday, October 22, 2012

Chapter 12:Reality Bites

Praise and blame alike mean nothing. No, delightful as the pastime of measuring may be, it is the most futile of all occupations, and to submit to the decrees of the measurer is the most servile of attitudes. So long as you do what you wish to do, that is all that matters; and whether it matters for ages or only for hours, nobody can say.

So, I guess we are who we are for a lot of reasons.  And maybe we'll never know most of them.  But even if we don't have the power to choose where we come from, we can still choose where we go from there.  We can still do things.  And we can try to feel okay about them. And even if somebody else has it much worse, that doesn't really change the fact that you have what you have. Good and bad. And really, I don't think I have it any better or worse than others do.  I don't know.  It's just different.  Maybe it's good to put things in perspective, but sometimes, I think that the only perspective is to really be there. Because it's okay to feel things.  And be who you are about them.
The goods things don't always soften the bad things, but vice-versa, the bad things don't necessarily spoil the good things and make them unimportant.
I think if I’ve learned anything about friendship, it’s to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired, don’t take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff.

 No relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater…The love we have for each other is bigger than these small differences. And that’s the key. It’s like a big pie chart, and the love in a relationship has to be the biggest piece. Love can make up for a lot.

Note: These words are not my own, but they might as well be.


Sunday, May 27, 2012

Summer of 2012

I know I am guilty of ignoring this blog for months on end, but here I am again - with a little spare time in between reading and having my Sunday brunch - to give you updates on the lives of me and my friends!

We didn't travel together this summer. Each of us had our own agenda.

Chic went to Hong Kong and Macau last March with some friends.


For Frank's first trip abroad, he went with a friend to Vietnam. They visited Ho Chi Minh, Hanoi and Halong Bay.

Before their trip back, they met with Lady and her travel buddies in Ho Chi Minh.


Lady went to Indo-China without me (sob sob). She went on a 9-day trip to Bangkok, Cambodia and Vietnam with Lloyd, Ian and a couple of Ian's friends.


Omay finally graduated from Med School this summer. She was in the Top 3 of her class! Congratulations! Before she started her medical internship, she went to Palawan with her familia.


RB spent his 19-day mandatory vacation leave muttering about how ungrateful a friend I was. We didn't go to any trips together since I had work. But he did go on road trips with his friends - if he wasn't standing under a tree in some busy sidewalk, counting cars that passes by for hours on end.


We haven't seen Jude in more than a year I think! Although some time last year, Lady did bump into him at Ayala Cebu. But I saw on Facebook that his family went to Hong Kong 4 months ago. I was in Manila for a whole week to attend a training and orientation, but I still missed him because he want to a secret place - where his mom was - for mother's day.


Her membership to this friendship is almost expiring according to RB. We haven't seen her in a while, but a few days ago, she met up with Lady in Cebu so yay! Finally they saw each other again!


I was supposed to fly to HK with grade school friends last February, but we got left behind by the plane so I stayed in Manila for a whole weekend instead. And then I went back there mid-April to attend an event at the US Ambassador to the Philippines' home that was hosted by AmCham. And then I went back two weeks ago for a week-long training (work!), detoured for a weekend in Cebu before going home.


While we didn't have any major trips together, we did see a lot of each other. We've been having dinners, lunches, game nights, etc together. Such a laid back summer for me, at least!


Monday, February 20, 2012

Happy New Year

"True friends are never apart. Maybe in distance, but never in heart."

All out support for RB's interview with PAGCOR. Lunch at Ahfat, snacks/dinner at Grand Regal Hotel's Champagne Bar, and then a movie at NCCC Mall afterwards.

Surprise! Surprise! Guess who came to visit us for a while? It was a long weekend filled with lunches and dinners and coffees and catching up with friends and meeting new ones and de-stressing and getting stressed and everything in between!


Our first Christmas Party after high school. The invite said "come in your favorite character" and among those who went, only a handful of us wore costumes. But this was so much fun so we should be making this an annual affair. Next Christmas' theme: Gods and Goddesses. 


Post-Christmas visit to Mana and then coffee at Caffe Firenzo afterwards for more mochilato! 

How the years fly by - it was the new year and we were already celebrating Frank's 24th (fine, 21st) birthday by good food, good friends and good music - never mind the tone deafness!

An accidental meeting at one of my favorite resto's with Frank's badminton buddies (and a couple of my former classmates).

RB's sister turned 18 in January. Of course Frank and I were representatives of the barkada to support our quasi-little sister!

We all met up again at Cams' for her 23rd birthday. Good people plus incredibly good food!

Just last Wednesday, Emily and I finally recruited some people to join us at Bigby's Trivia Night where we won 2nd place! Weeee!

We also went out last night because Lady was in town - but photos from her aren't up yet. Watch out for it in the next blog update! Overall, we had a pretty hectic past couple of months but spending time with my best of friends is worth it!



Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Summer to Fall

Last night I realized that I haven't updated this blog in ages! I'm sure a lot of things happened between May and now, but I'm too lazy to go into details so I'll just share with everyone a few of the highlights of these past months...

Surigao, Let's Go!

Frank, RB and I, along with Cams and Lloyd, went on a road trip to Surigao del Sur on the long weekend of August! I grew up between Agusan and Surigao, but the rest of the group are first timers.

We stayed in Northway Hotel in San Francisco, which was an hour drive away from Surigao del Sur. For our day trips, we visited Tinuy-An Falls in Bislig, Enchanted River in Hinatuan, and Letty's Terraces, a private resort, in Lianga. And because I wrote about this in detail already, go read it here.

House Party at Chic's

We were still hung over from a crazy road trip when we met up again at Chic's. She was in town 2 weeks after her birthday, but we still partied like it was her natal day!

I don't have a copy of the photos we took, but allow me to still share how crazy it was. There were too many food - all of them DELICIOUS, if I may add - and there were too many drinks! Again, thanks to tried and tested games, and very creative punishment negotiations, Frank had stripped naked before the night ended. HEEHAW! Who says we don't make good deals?

Omay: Still Young at 23

We were all crazy busy so we celebrated Omay's 23rd days late. But awesome people that we are, we celebrated it with a bang! and a splash, and laughter, and tears, and more laughter!

The winning line of the night would have to be from RB. Read more about the sleepover here.


Fast forward to October - since we didn't see much of each other following Omay's birthday. It's another semestral break for students and Lady was back in town! I went to the salon for a supposedly quick visit and hola - I ended up having my hair dyed! After dinner at Lachi's, I cancelled on going to a friend's party, and decided to drink and christen the Fontilla's new crib instead. We had an impromptu sleepover with the bubwits because I ended up sleeping in the middle of watching a movie. Oops. 

And then came RB's birthday. He invited us for dinner with his family. I intentionally ignored all his text messages and calls the whole day, and it was only Lady who mentioned about going since the rest of them are either busy or out of town or just couldn't care less. Our surprise consisted of ourselves and a cake! Yay! Plus we ended the evening on a discussion about love, life, and sex over a hot cup of coffee and 2 slices of Blugre's chocolate moist cake. Happy birthday, RB.

It was also Jude's birthday a few days later, but we didn't get to see him so... Belated Happy Birthday Jude!

Happy Halloween

While Lady and I were hanging out at the newly opened D'Leonor Inland Resort, we've decided that she'll be going with me to a halloween party my friend Zhaun is throwing at Marco Polo. I convinced her mom that they should donate some GC's to promote their salon. That aside, we ended up going with Eric, their new stylist. I had a blast especially since I got a little bit drunk, but not enough to make me lose my mind and drive intoxicated! 

Fancy Night Out

And just last Sunday evening, Frank, RB and I went out for a fancy dinner at Mamu's. A bottle of bubbly (because they ran out of cheap read wine haha), some really delicious food, and an intimate ambiance was perfect for the relaxed mood I was looking for that night.

And we had coffee at the Roof Garden of Gaisano Mall for a nightcap. Ahhhh, life!