Monday, October 22, 2012

Chapter 12:Reality Bites


Praise and blame alike mean nothing. No, delightful as the pastime of measuring may be, it is the most futile of all occupations, and to submit to the decrees of the measurer is the most servile of attitudes. So long as you do what you wish to do, that is all that matters; and whether it matters for ages or only for hours, nobody can say.

So, I guess we are who we are for a lot of reasons.  And maybe we'll never know most of them.  But even if we don't have the power to choose where we come from, we can still choose where we go from there.  We can still do things.  And we can try to feel okay about them. And even if somebody else has it much worse, that doesn't really change the fact that you have what you have. Good and bad. And really, I don't think I have it any better or worse than others do.  I don't know.  It's just different.  Maybe it's good to put things in perspective, but sometimes, I think that the only perspective is to really be there. Because it's okay to feel things.  And be who you are about them.
The goods things don't always soften the bad things, but vice-versa, the bad things don't necessarily spoil the good things and make them unimportant.
I think if I’ve learned anything about friendship, it’s to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired, don’t take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff.

 No relationship is perfect, ever. There are always some ways you have to bend, to compromise, to give something up in order to gain something greater…The love we have for each other is bigger than these small differences. And that’s the key. It’s like a big pie chart, and the love in a relationship has to be the biggest piece. Love can make up for a lot.

Note: These words are not my own, but they might as well be.

telai